The first guy I got tangled up with a few months into being single, turned out to be a complete disaster. I knew Mike from work but really only to say hi and he always seemed very nice. Somehow he found his way into my dm’s and he hit the ground running with some serious flirting.

So I took him up on it. We hung out in his car during one of his coffee breaks, made out a bit. Mike was a bigger guy and he made me feel safe when we were together. I think that at time in my life, I gravitated toward that. We were quite physically attracted to each other and decided to spend some time together at his place later that night.

Honestly, I can’t remember how many days or weeks we saw each other for. I had kind of forgotten he even existed to be honest. But I do remember that all of the occasions we were in each other’s company, alcohol was involved. Which should have been red flags from the start.

I clearly recall the end however. Yes, he had a nice place and a stable job, made decent money. Yes, he seemed to be an involved father to his almost adult children. But the drinking was more than I could handle.

The last time I saw him, he had a friend over and the three of us went to another friend’s place and were just hanging out, chatting, laughing and having a couple of drinks. We went back to his place, he and I went to bed, had sex and I assumed he fell asleep around the same time as me.

I woke up to him and his friend coming home at about 6 am, completely inebriated. I didn’t even know he had left and gone out somewhere else after we came home and I went to bed. I feel like he’d had plenty to drink at my friend’s house earlier and couldn’t believe he’d gone to party number 2 and kept drinking. I felt disgusted by him.

I had to work that day, an evening shift and needed to get home. He and his friend passed out right in the living room and I was stranded. I didn’t have my car there.

I called a good friend and gave her the address to come and rescue me. It was a shitty feeling. But I realized alcohol dominated his life way too much. And I’d just come out of a situation like that and wasn’t going down that road ever again.

See ya never Mike…